You might be here if you…

Are navigating major life transitions:

  • Starting or finishing high school or college

  • Becoming a parent or facing an empty nest

  • Caring for an aging parent or family member

  • Going through relationship changes

  • Beginning or ending a career

Struggle with boundaries and codependence:

  • You’re only okay if others are okay

  • Your self-worth feels tied to being useful or needed

  • You adjust to others’ needs and experience, often losing track of your own

  • You have loved ones managing addiction or mental illness

Experience perfectionism and anxiety:

  • You rely on external order for internal security

  • You struggle with feeling like peace is something you have to earn, not experience

  • Control feels like survival, not choice

  • You’re exhausted from having to hold everything together

Grew up too fast:

  • You’ve been the “mature one” since childhood

  • You learned to stifle your feelings and needs for safety, or to keep peace

  • Your caregivers or family members were experiencing significant challenges of their own while you were growing up.

About Therapy.

Many people come to therapy having spent years holding themselves together through achievement, perfectionism, or focusing on the needs of others. Therapy is a space where you can set that down.

Throughout our lives, we learn strategies to make meaning and manage our emotions in a way that keeps us safe and connected. As our lives change, we might find that we’re using some strategies that limit us. Together, we can look at your challenges not as flaws to be fixed, but as intelligent adaptations that kept you safe in the past. We will honor them as we explore what kind of adjustments could be more supportive for you now.

In my practice, structure gives way to organic discovery. Rather than imposing external strategies, I follow your process with curiosity and care. This can be especially supportive if you're anxious, perfectionistic, or tend to over-rely on externalized order: therapy can be a place where complexity is embraced rather than feared.

Meaningful growth happens when you can develop a consistent, compassionate relationship with yourself. From that base, we can explore outward, clarifying boundaries, needs, longings, and the life you want to build.

Topics we could explore…

  • Depression

    This kind of deep sadness contains within it a message, a part of your self that is longing to be heard but not getting through. In our culture which emphasizes productivity, “good vibes only”, and simplicity, that message can be hard to find. Therapy provides a space for courageous exploration and listening where this kind of message can be heard. While it doesn’t feel like it, depression is often an indicator that your vitality is trying to emerge — your psyche is making an effort to transform but getting stuck along the way. Something is out of alignment. When witnessed and addressed, this sadness has potential to release vitality and life-force that allows for growth and emergence of self.

  • Anxiety

    Sensitivity. Awareness of all the possibilities at once. A sense of fearing—or knowing—that something uncomfortable, painful, or downright dangerous is going to happen. A need to stay alert should one of these things prove true; “What if?”…

    These are reasonable, protective habits to form in our world. And, they are often not the best tools to approach our day-to-day lives. In time, you might experience chronic stress, exhaustion, and trouble accessing more expansive states of being. Anxiety is a self-sustaining loop of thought designed to keep us safe. Honoring that intention (and validating its concerns) while focusing our awareness on the present moment can help us soothe some of this patterning, and jump off the treadmill.

  • Life Transitions

    When you are in the in-between (whether it’s relationships, jobs, locations, emergent parts of your identity), so much of our patterning comes out to play. How do you relate to yourself when you’re changing? The boundaries between what is known and unknown become blurry, our touch points and sense of safety is threatened. Urgency might come through with its good intentions (and challenging delivery), or perhaps a sense of discouragement and an urge to give up. But piece by piece your growth continues, and the voice within you gets stronger. Awareness along the way can help you make conscious decisions, grieve what you leave behind, and move forward with more integration.

  • Being You

    Common terms like “anxiety” and “depression” are helpful to support communication, but using a word for them also means that they can become abstract concepts, and some nuance can get lost. I want to know the unique alchemy of your emotional experience, and what it means to you.

    And, if you have other common terms to express the kinds of things you’d like to work on — great! Let’s get into it.

 You might be wondering…

  • My fees are $160 for a 45-minute individual session, or $210 for a 60-minute relationship session.

  • I am an out-of-network provider. This means I cannot bill insurance directly but I can provide a superbill for you to submit to your insurer for reimbursement.

  • The practice I work for has offices in Hayes Valley and the Castro in San Francisco. At this time, all my sessions are online, using a secure video platform.

  • If you are asking that question it sounds like a part of you is. I encourage you to reach out (and feel it out), seeing if you can find that curious place where trusting your gut can also feel like taking a risk.